Monthly Archives: January 2014

Community

Since Danny’s death (still surreal to write by the way), I’ve sought out and joined a couple of online support groups. These types of groups were invaluable to me when I was active in Al-Anon as no face-to-face groups met … Continue reading

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Six weeks…

Six weeks tomorrow. I don’t even know how that is possible.  In many ways it seems like yesterday, and in many other ways I feel as if he’s been gone for years.  I think that must be because the void … Continue reading

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525,600 minutes…

There’s a popular song from the Tony Award winning musical “Rent” that invites us to consider how it is that we measure a year in a human life.  As I worked these past few weeks to craft the obituary I … Continue reading

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Danny Doak, May 26, 1954 – December 13, 2013

“To laugh often and love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children; to earn the approbation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty. “To find the best in … Continue reading

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One month later…

…and tears still fill my sleepless nights. …and a friend’s hug or kind word can bring a wave of grief or gratitude ~ I never know which one until it has already swelled and come crashing down around me. …and … Continue reading

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Still here…

I needed my man today – my partner, my confidant.  Up until now, I’ve wanted him – his companionship, his love, his laugh, his smile, our conversations and jokes, our comings and our goings –  but today I needed him.  I needed … Continue reading

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Four weeks…

Four weeks. How is that even possible?  Four friggen weeks.  I spent the last two months of 2012 and the first 11 of 2013 tracking the days, weeks, months, and, finally, the almost-magical “one year” following my November 17th jaunt … Continue reading

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